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Book Review: Good Boundaries and Goodbyes Author: Lysa Terkeurst

This great book about setting good boundaries and creating healthy relationships has been chosen as Women of Reverence's book of the month!

Relationships are wonderful . . . until they're not.

Join #1 New York Times bestselling author Lysa TerKeurst as she helps you stop the dysfunction of unhealthy relationships by showing you biblical ways to set boundaries--and, when necessary, say goodbye--without losing the best of who you are.

Is it unloving or selfish to set a boundary? Are Christians ever called to walk away from a relationship that’s no longer safe or sustainable? Lysa TerKeurst deeply understands these hard questions in the midst of relational struggles.

But after thousands of hours of counseling intensives and extensive theological research that transformed the way she defined healthy relationships, Lysa is now more committed than ever to loving people well without losing the best of who she is. She wants to help you do the same. In these pages Lysa will help you:

  • Understand the five factors to remember when implementing healthy boundaries.

  • Determine the appropriate amount of personal and emotional access someone has to you based on how responsible they'll be with that access.

  • Stop being misled and emotionally paralyzed by wrongly interpreted or weaponized scriptures that perpetuate unhealthy dynamics in difficult relationships.

  • Overcome the frustrating cycle of ineffective boundary-setting with realistic scripts and practical strategies to help you communicate, keep, and implement healthier patterns.

  • Be equipped to say goodbye without guilt when a relationship has shifted from difficult to destructive and is no longer sustainable.

  • Receive therapeutic wisdom you can trust directly from Lysa’s Christian counselor Jim Cress, who weighs in throughout the book.

You'll be relieved to learn that boundaries aren't just a good idea, they're a God idea.

Reviewed by:

Yolandé Vincent

Tell us a bit about yourself:

I am a hairstylist & make-up artist by trade. I am also a qualified Christian counsellor. I thoroughly enjoy being part of people's transformation journeys inside and out. My husband and I serve on the Eldership team at Venture Church, Fairland. I enjoy reading and learning and growing. I like the quote by Dolly Parton: "If your actions create a legacy that inspires others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are an excellent leader."

Name of Book:

Good Boundaries and Goodbyes


Lysa TerKeurst

What drew you to read this book?:

I had the privilege to read her book "Seeing beautiful again" and I thoroughly enjoy her writing, honesty and care for the reader.

What impact did this book have on your life?:

What she shares, she's learned the hard way and is living it out and we get to learn from her. Healthy boundaries are very important for healthy relationships. This book, with constant scripture references showed me that Jesus didn't make me a door mat. We can't let other people's fractured thinking affect us to the point where we get our thinking out of alignment with God's truth. "God's grace should lead people to better behavior, not enable bad behavior."

In a paragraph, what is the main point of the book?:

Lysa keeps pointing the reader to Jesus, which is always a win. She shows the reader in scripture what Jesus expects of us relationally and how to walk out and live out healthy relationships. All believers can benefit from learning how to place healthy boundaries in relationships and to not feel guilty when sticking to them. She takes the reader back to the importance of their identities securely rooted in Jesus and not other peoples opinions and brokenness. She also shows from examples when to say goodbye and walk away from unhealthy relationships. Lysa's mission with this book is to teach us to love others well without losing the best of who God created us to be.

Who would benefit from reading this book?:

Any believer needing the reminder who they were truly created to be. Any believer struggling relationally with boundaries and when to say goodbye.

Star Rating?:

All comments are writers own.

Published by Thomas Nelson and distributed by Struik Christian Media.

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