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Book Review: Be Angry But Don't Blow It - maintain your passion without losing your cool.

Updated: Aug 11, 2020

New York Times best-selling author Lisa Bevere encourages women to stop hurting the ones they love, to learn to say things so they'll be heard, to get rid of bitterness, and to find forgiveness for themselves.

Conflict – it’s unavoidable. Therefore, each of us must learn to manage it successfully. But what if we can't? What if anger has us out of control and out of hand? You're passionate and losing your cool. Or perhaps worse – you're depressed and wrought with fear because you've turned the destructive force of rage on yourself.

Anger controlled Lisa for years, exacting a devastating toll upon her life and relationships. Desperate, Lisa cried out to God . . . and found help. If you, too, are at a turning point – longing for change yet stuck in a whirlwind of fury and rage – Be Angry, But Don't Blow It will help you regain control. Sharing all she has learned about handling this powerful emotion, Lisa discusses how you can:

  • Learn to say things so you'll be heard

  • Move beyond mere apologies into genuine confession

  • Yank the defiling root of bitterness

  • Find forgiveness and release for yourself

This book interweaves powerful scriptural truths with practical, personal examples and prayer. Readers will learn to channel passionate emotions constructively. Anger is not wrong, it is how we express it and how far we take it that determines the outcome. For those really ready to be honest and get free, this book will light the way. Be Angry, But Don’t Blow It also includes a three-week program to help move you from destructive to constructive anger and recapture the healthy passion God wants you to have.

Available from leading booksellers nationwide, such as C.U.M. Books, Exclusive Books, Bargain Books, Wordsworth Books, PNA – As well as online at C.U.M. Books, Loot and Takealot.

Reviewed by:

Melissa Burger

In a sentence tell us about yourself:

Follower of Christ, Wife, Sister, Aunt, Friend, Reader 😊, Runner, Hiker, Karate student, part-time Unisa student and therapist.

What drew you to read this book?

I didn’t – this book actually chose me, and I am SO grateful for it! (I am assuming no one wanted to own up to needing the book quite that much given the title 😊 but our Father knows best and arranged that this book fell right into my lap because He knew it would answer a few longstanding questions that I have been struggling with to Him in prayer.

What impact did this book make on your life?

Lisa writes in a humane and down to earth manner form a place of real understanding. Just knowing that a well-known Christian author has struggled with the same issues as me, already made me feel more normal and not any less loved by God. She addressed the issue(s) of anger from different impacting angles and ends each chapter with a beautiful prayer that is such a heartfelt cry to God. All of this helped me get to a place of deeper understanding and again feeling more loved by my Father, drawing closer to Him through Lisa’s words. And that was even before I got to the three-week daily actions/ a kind of Bible study of putting it into practice. It the practice parts you get to list your triumphs, your confessions, your insights and again and again God teaches through Lisa’s words.

In a paragraph what is the main point of the book?

Lisa Bevere taught me that we can all get angry but what we DO with that anger makes the difference and ultimately can lead you away from experiencing the Father’s grace and mercy. The book teaches one how to manage your anger in a way that leads away from shame and self-hatred and closer to feeling loved, heard, and understood but also feeling closer to God’s heart.

Who would benefit from reading this book?

When Lisa refers to anger in the title, she means the seething, raging, blowing your top and losing your temper kind. So, if that sounds familiar, this book is definitely for you so that you can look back a few weeks down the line and realize that that WAS you, but again God has stepped in and started doing the life-changing work that only He is capable of doing. Maybe though if you are the parent of such a child or quite possibly even a spouse, you may find this helpful in understanding where the angry person’s reactions come from but this is mostly a book for those who really have faced that enemy within themselves just once too often and feel that it is now time for a drastic change.

What is my next Book Review?

God, Boy, Ocean (oh wow!)

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Published by Thomas Nelson and distributed by Struik Christian Media.

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