I will never forget that one Summer night when my entire life just crumbled right in front of me. It was 2 in the morning and I was in bed with my kids. I remember the time because that was the time of the phone call that forever changed my life.
My husband, on the other side of the phone, had just confessed that he'd been having an affair with another woman. Immediately, my reaction was denial – this couldn’t be happening to me. I told myself that I must have be dreaming and I just needed to go back to sleep and everything would be fine the next morning. But as I was shutting my eyes, I felt a nudge from the Lord telling me that this was really happening and that my husband was outside and I needed to go talk to him. As I was getting out of the bed, my knees started to shake and my heart started to beat as if I were running a marathon. I went outside, sat in the car with him and he told me everything. At that very moment, I decided it was the end of my marriage, but God had another plan for me and our lives.
My husband wanted to get help and work on our marriage but I was adamant in ending it because, according to the word of God, divorce was acceptable if it was on the right grounds of adultery. So, I secretly started to look for a place for myself and my kids. I had no idea how any of that would happen since I had been a stay-at-home mom and hadn’t worked for years. A friend offered me a one-bedroom place so we could have a new start, until I could get on my feet. The room was in a day-care. I remember taking my kids with me to go see the room and I told my older son that it would be our new home for a while. At first, he was really excited to see the place because of all the unlimited toys he would have access to in the day-care. But then the question came that forever changed my heart.
My son, who was only 5 at that time, looked at me and asked, “Mommy, is Daddy coming with us?” I explained to him that Daddy would not be coming with us – it would be just him, his little brother and I. My son paused for few seconds and then gave a response that changed my decision forever. He said, "But Mommy, he's family and we don't leave family behind!" I looked at his innocent little face and I realized – how could I tell a 5-year-old what had taken place in our family and the pain that his mother was going through? I couldn't take away the perfect picture that his little mind had of his loving home and his perfect family, and exchange it for something that would be traumatic for him. And just like that, the Lord spoke to me through my 5-year-old and made me realize the power of forgiveness, and the grace that He has extended to me should be extended to others as well. And just because things were getting tough, I could not just get up and leave everything. Imagine if Jesus decided not to go to the cross because it was tough; we wouldn't be where we are now. We would never know the true power of forgiveness and grace.
So, that very moment, I decided that I would give our marriage a try. My husband and I decided to get help and started Christian marriage counselling. The road was not easy, but with God's help, we made it through. I am proud to say that my husband is a changed man. Not only did he give up his old ways of life, he also gave his life to God and accepted Jesus as his Lord and Saviour. He is an amazing man of God, and a great husband and a father.
Romans 8:28 (NIV) says: "We know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose."
God can take anything, even the most painful things in our lives, and use them for good. He not only saved my marriage but also birthed a great ministry within me, a ministry where women from all over the world share what the Lord has done in their lives. You can find out more about it on Instagram: @shesfierceingod.
God is faithful, and He who begins a good work in you will not give up on you right in the middle, but will bring it to completion and use it for His Glory.
Aasha Shaw is a Canadian at heart, Indian blooded, lover of Jesus, and Founder of She's Fierce in God. She and her husband have two beautiful boys, Elian and Elijah, and currently reside in New York. Aasha believes transformation begins with a conversation, and that is exactly what she is doing in her ministry which can be found on the popular platform Instagram.
There is no stopping her or shall we say, God. She has interviewed women from all over the globe and each story magnifies the goodness of God. Interested in being featured, sent her a message! She is a light looking to light the path for others, but that's not all, she's also a really great cook!