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Love - by Caitlyn Joy van Maarseveen

What is the definition of ‘love’?

Well, the dictionary meaning says this, ‘love is an intense feeling of deep affection.’

That makes me feel great, just great. ( I’m being sarcastic here btw ) If it’s just an ‘intense feeling’, then surely that ‘feeling’ could just suddenly, I don’t know, go away? Oh my word that is NOT a nice thought.

So...that kinda paints a picture for us doesn’t it. To be honest I think the Bible’s definition of love is WAY better.

1 Corinthians 13:4 says this, ‘Love is patient, love is kind, it does not envy, it does not boast, it is not arrogant or deceitful. It does not insist on its own way:it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.’

That’s soooo much better than the other meaning, am I right? ( Yea I am )

So, anywhooooo…

I have just finished a year of your life with Destiny Leadership Academy in Pietermaritzburg, and my oh my… it was tough. 2019 taught me so much and one of the things that God revealed to me in that year was the power of His love. It only hit me a while ago that 1 Corinthians 13 is talking about God! The characteristics of God is love, everything that the scripture was saying about love, was basically just describing God. I promise you that it really made sense when I replaced the word ‘love’ with God. God is love!

I know that sometimes when the Bible tells us to love one another, we just nod our heads but don’t take it as literally as we should. At least I didn’t. I mean… what does it even mean to love your neighbour? Does that mean saying hello to them every morning? Smiling at them in greeting? Who are our neighbours anyway???

These were all the thoughts I used to think until God changed my perspective COMPLETELY!

Did you know that love is not a feeling? In fact… it’s a choice! ( I know right… mind blowing! )

Jesus didn’t just ‘feel’ like dying for us, He CHOSE to, still knowing the pain that He was going to have to endure, the rejection He knew He was still going to get. Still He chose to die for us.

When I realised this my whole perspective changed. I chose to wake up every morning choosing to love even when I didn’t feel like it. And sometimes I didn’t get it right, my sinful nature would take over and then I would just focus on myself again. Annoying, I know.

But that’s the most amazing thing about our Dad, is that He doesn’t just get tired of loving us, there’s no sinful nature in Him. That’s how good He is!

God created you and I to be His, to abide in Him, to be fully and utterly submerged in Him. And when we become one with Him, loving becomes second nature, love becomes genuine. To represent God we have to love like God.

It’s amazing right!? God is so so good!

One last thing, sometimes I would choose to love people but not realise that I was loving from my own empty tank. So therefore, sadly my love ran out and I was left feeling drained and I noticed that my love wasn’t genuine… not even a little bit.

In those moments God would show me that I can’t love without Him. I can’t function from my own love, because it’s flawed and dysfunctional… it’s in pieces.

HOWEVER… God’s love is not! So here’s a little tip; work from God’s love, not from your own, because you most probably gonna fail.

Be influenced by Him to influence others.

Don’t worry girl, we got this!!



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