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Book Review: Get Up & Get Out Author: Thandi Makoni

The worldwide average estimate of women subjected to violence is about 1 in 3, and living in a society where abuse is highly prevalent, a lived reality, and often unspoken is to the detriment of one’s self- realization. Thandi M unmasks the gender-based violence, trauma and pain that she experienced in her life’s journey.

After several near-death experiences and many roller coaster rides, she had to make a change — a decision to walk away from the cycle of abuse and to end toxic relationships. From the beginning of her life, rejection set the tone on how events would unfold from one home to another, making her vulnerable to the many forms of violence. Whether emotional, physical or financial abuse, Thandi M explores the need for accountability and provokes a raw introspection of violence in all its forms, expressing that none of it is discriminatory of social status.

In Get Up and Get Out: Finding the courage to end toxic relationships, Thandi M lays herself bare, sharing her deeply personal experiences and recalling her journey through the many phases of toxic relationships. She is candid about how these left her shattered, disillusioned, and financially ruined.

This is a book that inspires self-discovery through love and forgiveness. It calls for a reality check in understanding that although one cannot change their past, the ultimate power to shape the future is within oneself. Finding purpose for pain is a journey of courage, hope and restoration.

Reviewed by:

Pinky Hlophe

Tell us a bit about yourself:

I am a wife, mom and home schooler. I love kids ministry and enjoy seeing kids find their revelation of the love of Jesus. My husband and I lead Front Line People church in Brakpan. We love Jesus!

Name of Book:

Get Up & Get Out


Thandi Makoni

What drew you to read this book?:

The book was recommended, and I now understand why.

What impact did this book have on your life?:

It gave me greater understanding of what gender-based violence is all about. I have have now learnt some of the reasoning why some women stay in broken homes and how brokenness changes the lens of how you see everything around you.

In a paragraph, what is the main point of the book?:

The book is about finding courage to leave toxic relationships. The book goes into great detail of all the struggles that the author went through from childhood, the trauma caused by all her relationships and the rejection she faced. The author shares her heart with the reader and takes you through her journey from her lens and lets you experience it with her, the trauma, rejection, disappointment, pain, financial distress, mental illness and addictions. Every life choice creates a chain reaction both inwardly and outwardly. The author shares about her encounter with Jesus and being discipled. It is personal, heart-breaking, intense and very raw.

Who would benefit from reading this book?:

Anyone struggling with rejection, mental-illness, brokenness, gender-based violence will benefit from this book. Everyone who wants to learn how to help those who are struggling. It is a very informative book.

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