You are invaluable. You are your children’s everything. It has been said that the hand that rocks the cradle, rules the world…Our job as mothers is undoubtedly THE most important work we will ever do. I know the days that leave us in a heap, exhausted, discouraged and empty. I know the challenges you face on a daily basis. I have been in the trenches of motherhood for 20 years now, having four children, all in different stages of life. Today, I want to lift your vision and cheer you on for more. I’d like to look at five roles I see for mothers in the word of God. I’m always amazed at how practical scripture is and how it speaks to absolutely every aspect of our lives. Let’s take a look:
Mom, you are designed as a nurturer.
God has woven this quality right through your feminine being. Not only is your body designed to conceive, carry and birth life, but you are also emotionally and spiritually equipped to nurture and tend to that new, young life. Nursing, holding, protecting , soothing and tenderly caring, are all encompassed in our role. Obviously as our little ones grow, this may look a bit different, but our maternal hearts express themselves in various forms of this at different stages of our parenting. 1 Thessalonians 2:7 (Amplified) says, “But we behaved gently when we were among you, like a devoted mother, nursing and cherishing her children”. Note the wording here. What a beautiful picture Paul paints of the role we play as nurturers! Our children need us to be their safe place. You, Mom, are a shelter in the storms of life. You are a confidant, a listening ear, a soft place to land.
Mother, you are also a teacher.
Proverbs 1:8 says, “Listen, my son, to your father’s instruction, and do not forsake your mother’s teaching.” Every day, you are teaching with your words and your life. Some of our teaching is intentional. We get down on our knees and encourage their first tiny steps. We sit on the floor and show them how to build a puzzle. We instruct them on manners, the birds and the bees and how to walk with Jesus. A large portion of our teaching, however, is rather “caught than taught”, like a kind of osmosis that happens between parent and child. An unintentional passing on of our values, mannerisms, likes and dislikes is happening every day; our hearts indelibly imprinted on the souls of our children for all of time. This is both weighty and marvellous, not so? Our little ones are watching it all: how we give, what we say, how we walk with the Lord, how we function in relationships and even how we view and treat ourselves! Let’s allow the Holy Spirit to guide and counsel us as we teach the next generation.
Builders are what we are, Moms!
Proverbs 14:1 (TPT) says, “every wise woman encourages and builds up her family, but a foolish woman over time will tear it down by her own actions.” God’s intention, clearly, is for us as women to be those who build. Other synonyms for “build” include, “establish, strengthen, fortify”. God wants us building, not tearing down our precious families. I believe we build with our words, prayer and honour. What are you speaking in your home? Is there life or death coming out of your mouth? (Proverbs 18:21) Words of life will establish your family. They will build up each individual, adding strength to the whole. On the contrary, negative, snide remarks, criticism, sarcasm and harsh, thoughtless words will tear down and destroy your home. Scripture is full of encouragement to use only words that are helpful for building others up. Likewise, prayer is a powerful tool with which to establish things. Ask the Spirit to give you scriptures to pray over your children. Don’t settle for mediocre, but trust God for His highest and best for your family. See with your spiritual eyes what He has for your offspring and pray these things into being. The prayer of a righteous woman is powerful and effective! Honour too, is a Godly way of inviting Heaven’s divine order into our homes and families. The Bible instructs us to ‘outdo one another in honouring each other’ (Rom 12;10) How we speak to each other should always show honour and respect as this makes for a thriving family.
Proverbs 31:27 (the Passion Translation) says, “She watches over the ways of her household and meets every need they have”. Ladies, I believe God wants our natural and spiritual eyes to be wide open in our households. We are called to be “watchwomen”.
What do you think God’s Word means when it says she “watches over the ways of her household”? I believe He wants us aware of and noticing the needs of all those in our homes: our spouses, our children, extended family, those who work in our homes and even guests! This means being sensitive to the atmosphere and vibe in our homes. It entails checking in with those we live with, asking how they are really doing. If you notice one member of the family is withdrawn or stressed, ask how you can help to alleviate their burden. Become a student of your children, without “hovering” too much! Step in where necessary. Sometimes, meeting the needs of those in your home will entail making a cup of tea, having an unrushed conversation, buying a thoughtful gift, giving a hug or helping them with a deadline.
Lastly, there are times when we need to be warriors in our homes.
Proverbs 31:10 (TPT) says, “Who could ever find a wife like this one- She is a woman of strength and mighty valour”. You are a prayer warrior in your home, Mom! There are times when we need to war against the schemes of the enemy in our families. If there is darkness, declare His light; if there is fear, declare His perfect love; if there is sickness, declare His healing; if there is lack, declare His provision. You have His power residing in you to bring change!
May His grace strengthen and encourage you as invest in your family day in and day out.
With much love, Angela